Actor Penn Badgley, speaking to press and on social media, expressed a kind of nauseated confusion as to why so many fans of the hit book-to-Nextflix series\u00a0You\u00a0fell in love with his portrayal of the hopelessly romantic bookstore clerk, Joe Goldberg. Sure, Joe had swarthy arms and a Clark Kent kiss swirl. Sure, Joe read classic literature and cooked homemade dinners. Sure, Joe would\u00a0never forget an anniversary. He just also happened to be a stone-cold psychotic serial killer with stalking tendencies. Yet, admirers wished they could date someone like him.<\/p>\n
The \u201cJoe Effect\u201d shares a lot in common with today\u2019s parasocial relationships, forged online, often between social media influencers and eager fans. And it explains why so many people are quick to forgive literal murderers, so long as they have a good tagline and a friendly smile. Anyone can fall victim to parasociality. In fact, it\u2019s baked into our coding.\u00a0
\nParasociality describes a one-sided connection between someone who invests emotional energy into a source that likely doesn\u2019t even know they exist. It mimics real friendship for the socially engaged person, despite that engagement being inequitable, requiring their time, admiration, and attention to detail. For example, someone who watches an interview of a favorite celebrity during their lunch break has devoted free time to learning about the celebrity\u2019s kids, how their work is going, and might even share a laugh with them. In return, the parasociality bestows the same sense of belonging and direction that real friendship often does, in that it\u2019s welcoming, entertaining, relatable, or motivating. It may even mimic reciprocity when a celebrity attributes their success to the audience, saying \u2018thank you so much, I love you guys, I couldn\u2019t have done it without you!\u2019
\nThe term \u201cparasocial\u201d was coined in the 1950s, describing a tactic used by radio hosts to sound conversational. Hosts realized that the more a program felt like just chummy chat in a listener\u2019s living room, the more people turned in. By the 80s, parasociality was being applied to tv talk shows: hosts used \u201chonest personas\u201d to tackle news or comedy, giving the impression over years of viewership and shared experiences that audiences really\u00a0knew them. By the 90s, the confluence of growing social media with a clumsy idea of how to use it laid the groundwork for the most powerful form of parasociality yet. The early internet was treated a lot like a diary between pen pals, with users journaling online, posting family photos, and talking about the minutiae of their day to strangers in faceless chat windows. From the 2010s onward, when social media blossomed into highly curated blips of perfectly sculpted \u201creality\u201d bites, the power of influencers was cemented by near-constant exposure\u2014you could \u201ctune in\u201d at any time. Today, it\u2019s more likely that strangers will engage with popular posts on Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter\/X then the poster\u2019s actual friends; so content is now crafted for non-friends on social platforms created\u00a0for\u00a0friends.\u00a0And the most popular users still blend that tv-radio performative \u201crealness\u201d with highly idealized snippets of their life, all the more personalized by an engagement algorithm.
\nHumans are ripe for parasocial content. Illusions of intimacy are important to brain function\u2014we are hardwired to create social webbing, and our brain chemistry little cares if it\u2019s reciprocal so long as it\u2019s\u00a0safe. Users can\u2019t be rejected by media personalities who are always there for them but never or rarely reply directly to them, felling any danger of an awkward\u00a0interaction.\u00a0Parasociality often has a positive effect, even\u2014people\u00a0learn from their heroes, get inspired by artists and athletes, engage in charity and signal boosting, and mimic examples of good behavior. Influencers can even reduce social stigmas by speaking out on struggles with identity, health, or stress.\u00a0
\nWhere it gets dangerous is when people start clicking \u201cLike\u201d on the newest Joe Goldberg\u2014or Ted Bundy, or Jeffrey Dahmer.
\nWe can chalk the potency of \u201cJoe Effect\u201d up to four key elements:<\/p>\n
Watching\u00a0You, audiences\u00a0hear the narrative from Joe\u2019s perspective, and are welcomed to humanize him and empathize with his view of things.
\n Joe\u2019s played by a conventionally handsome actor, filmed from all the right angles, using only his best takes.
\n Joe casts many of his victims as flawed, cruel, or mean in a recognizable way: bullies, misogynists, bad parents, you name it. There\u2019s a sense of\u00a0just desserts\u00a0in some of his crimes.\u00a0
\n Joe gives the impression he\u2019s devoted to the very people he takes advantage of.<\/p>\n
In other words, he might as well be your typical viral TikToker, in more ways than one.
\nJoe may not be real, but social media influencers are. They have all these same four elements at their disposal, and they have the baked-in loyalty of parasociality. When fans of mega-influencers feel they\u00a0know\u00a0a person, they take to their defense almost naturally. They\u2019ve been fed hours of content from that person\u2019s perspective, in their best light, and been told over and over again: you, the watcher, complete me. Influencers are relied upon by brands to sell products and experiences: but the influencer themself is the key product and experience fans trust. They\u2019re selling a highly coveted persona.
\nBut their deeds are real, and sometimes, deadly. While you might not meet Joe Goldberg in the freezer aisle, you might instead find Yuka Takaoka, the \u201ctoo beautiful\u201d Instagrammer who stabbed a man for speaking to another woman, stating she \u201cjust couldn\u2019t help it, she loved him so much.\u201d Users flew to her defense, stating they\u2019d love to have a girlfriend who\u2019d kill or die for them, one who was gorgeously obsessed. Or Snow, the whimsical mononymed cosplay guru with a similar legion of fans who all praise them as cute, epic, and perfect\u2014despite having shot someone at point blank range, a tragic accident with a tone-deaf aftermath of gory videos celebrating violent death. Or the supermarket serial killer himself, Randy Stair, who to this day adolescents relate to, brushing aside the popular cartoonist\u2019s obsession with violence, sexual assault, and eugenics as \u201crelatable\u201d because his content leaned into teen angst and rage against societal expectations.
\nAt the end of the day, social media invites us to watch strangers and feel like we know them. But that one-way intimacy, when an influencers falls afoul of morality, leans us into baffling, but common behavioral patterns: thinking we can fix them, sympathy for the devil, casting them as heroes operating outside of oppressive systems, the allure of \u201ceven negative press is good press\u201d as their notoriety soars, or feeling\u00a0they\u00a0are victims themselves.
\nThey\u2019re hoping they can be that friend you always swore you\u2019d help hide a body for.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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